Woman's Down Low Husband Tries To Kill Her For Confronting Him

0:00 He always asked me for anal sex and if I refuse it was an argument, it was a fight, it was a challenge and sometimes he would take it. He didn't care if I cried, he didn't care if I was like no like he jailhouse rape anally. The last time we went away for our anniversary I had enough. It was like 2 years before the incident. I was completely turned off, completely numb and I wasn't scared of him anymore. I'd rather die than be still living that type of life. Like being being to the point where it's like you scared to go to bed at night because you know, this man is won't ask you for sex and the type of sex he's asking you for is not normal. It's painful and he don't care.

0:44 He don't care that you was up all day with three kids, you know, maintaining a house, cooking and cleaning and doing whatever it is you got to do. He don't care of your period on. He don't care if you have a headache. He don't care. I just started to feel like I wasn't. I wasn't being loved anymore. Aisha's harrowing story begins with a violent confrontation that would ultimately lead to her husband's decade long imprisonment. That night, after discussing divorce and resolving to leave him, she had put her children to bed with a sense of hope. However, her estranged husband T, who had secretly kept a copy of his house key, appeared in her doorway while she slept. The ensuing confrontation exemplified the cycle of abuse that had dominated their relationship. T trapped her in the room for hours, alternating between pleading and threats.

1:43 When Aisha finally stood firm in her decision to leave, he attacked her with devastating force, beating her and attempting to strangle her. Only by biting his finger to the bone did she manage to break his grip and survive. The violence that night reached new heights of brutality. After forcing her into the bathroom to clean her wounds, Tea LED Aisha to their basement filled with tools that could become weapons. She managed to escape to her truck, though T threatened suicide before fleeing with her children, who had been awake and hiding during the attack. Aisha drove erratically toward the hospital until a police officer intercepted them and provided an escort.

2:27 The physical damage was severe, A gashed eye and cheek, a knocked out tooth, blood streaming down her face. This time, Aisha resolved to press charges, breaking the pattern of covering up his abuse. She had previously even lied to his probation officer at his behest, staying home when bruises marked her skin. Their history together stretched back to when Aisha was 12 and T was 16, a neighborhood boy who offered to protect her. They reconnected 12 years later, but she didn't know about his violent past, including an 8 year prison sentence for robbing and pistol whipping a store owner at age 16.

3:09 The audio recording Aisha made proved crucial to his conviction. In it, she deliberately established that she had never cheated, stolen or disrespected him, anticipating he might try to defame her character. She had been a devoted wife, keeping an Immaculate home and meeting his needs, yet still endured relentless abuse. Their 13 year marriage was marked by escalating sexual demands and manipulation. T struggled with his sexuality, constantly pressuring Aisha for anal sex despite her tears and refusals. He watched extensive pornography and eventually demanded she participate in acts that left her feeling violated and dehumanized.

3:56 The financial control was absolute, though T provided well buying them a house outside Philadelphia and furnishing it lavishly. It was all leverage to keep her dependent. Any attempt by Aisha to work or attend school was met with fierce opposition. With three young children and no independent income, she felt trapped. The situation grew more complex as TS sexual confusion deepened. He began watching specific types of pornography and ultimately pressured Aisha into using sex toys on him, insisting it wasn't gay if a woman did it. She later discovered hidden folders on his computer containing both family photos and explicit material.

4:38 Their religious life offered no refuge, though they attended church regularly with their children. T weaponized their faith, using prayers and promises of change to maintain control. The pastor's response to Aisha's reports of abuse, merely praying over them and sending them home, contributed to her eventual departure from Christianity and conversion to Islam. After escaping this marriage, Aisha faced an even more devastating betrayal in her second marriage to Elun Abdullah. Despite careful vetting, including meeting his large Muslim family, Abdullah sexually abused Aisha's daughter for over a year while Aisha was at work, even taking the girl for an abortion without Aisha's knowledge.

5:25 When confronted, Abdullah initially denied the abuse but eventually admitted to it. Aisha worked methodically with local authorities and detectives to secure warrants for his arrest, with the abortion clinic paperwork providing crucial evidence. The revelation devastated her. She had specifically chosen Abdullah, believing his family background made him safe around women. Throughout both relationships, Aisha's primary concern was protecting her children. She had stayed with Tea, partly due to insecurities about raising her daughter without her father. With Abdullah, she thought she had found someone who would help protect her daughter while she worked. The guilt of failing to prevent her daughter's abuse weighs heavily on her.

6:12 Aisha's story illuminates the complex dynamics of domestic abuse, how financial dependency, religious manipulation, concern for children, and social isolation create nearly inescapable traps. The escalation of violence when victims try to leave makes escape particularly dangerous without support systems in place. Her experience also reveals how abusers use multiple forms of control physical violence, sexual coercion, financial restriction, and psychological manipulation. TS ability to maintain a respectable public image while privately terrorizing his family is typical of many abusers.

6:56 The role of sexuality in the abuse adds another layer of complexity. TS struggles with his sexual identity, manifested in increasingly extreme demands on Aisha while maintaining the facade of a traditional marriage. His porn addiction and sexual confusion became weapons of control and humiliation. Aisha's journey from victim to survivor shows remarkable resilience. She evolved from trying to be the perfect wife to someone strong enough to leave press charges and ultimately share her story to help others. Her message emphasizes the importance of trusting one's instincts. If you have to question whether something is wrong, it probably is.

7:41 The impact of abuse extends far beyond the immediate violence. Aisha's children witnessed years of trauma hiding in their rooms during attacks. Her daughter's later abuse by Abdullah compounds the generational trauma. Yet Aisha continues to speak out, turning her pain into a warning and guidance for others trapped in similar situations. Her story underscores the critical importance of recognizing early warning signs and having escape plans and support systems in place. The progression from control to violence. The use of children as leverage, the isolation from support networks. These patterns repeat across many abuse cases.

8:24 By sharing her experience, Aisha helps others identify these red flags before abuse escalates to life threatening levels. My story is important because we're at a climax where sexuality is being challenged and studied every day. It's only best to hear experiences from people who are actually living through it. Yes, I can. I can. I can't agree more. OK, take us back to the day that landed your husband in prison for 10 years. The the day that that happened, we had spoke briefly earlier that day about, you know, him, him wanting to come home. He was just still like in that just take me back mode. And I was just like adamant, like, no, I spoke to a lawyer for getting a divorce.

9:22 You know, I'm serious this time because I've threatened to leave numerous times before. But that particular day, I just remember coming home with the kids. I probably went to like APTA meeting that day, came home and made some food. I felt good. You know, I felt like this is it like I'm, I'm out. I don't have to worry about him anymore. So I, I cooked everything and you know, me and the kids just enjoyed our meal and we washed up and went to bed to get ready for the next day. So I, I went to bed and everything, when I, I was sleeping, I, I kind of like, I don't know if you, if you're a light sleeper and you feel somebody standing over you. It was kind of like that, Like I was asleep and I just felt somebody standing over me.

10:13 And at the time he wasn't living in a house. Like we had got to the point where he had moved out and he probably was out of the home for a good two months. Nobody knew what was going on, but he was out of the home for probably a good two months and like, well, I felt somebody standing over me. So I kind of like opened my eyes and it was him. And I was just like, you know, it's hurry how you get in here because we had already made an agreement that he would stay out of the house until I actually moved out. And he was just like in the dark. It was just like in the dark in the doorway. And so I just immediately jumped up. I didn't have any, you know, clothes on. So I just jumped up and grab some scrubs that I had in the drawer and I threw them on and he was just like, I was like, how did you get in here?

11:02 And he was like, oh, I climbed through the window and I was like, no, you didn't. You didn't climb through the window because I locked it. And I made sure that I checked all of the windows before I had actually went to bed that night. So I knew for a fact he didn't come through the window. He pretended to give me the key, but he had a copy of the key. So all the whole time he knew he could get back and forth and and out of the house. I didn't know. So it just was like that. So I just woke up and then it just we he just went into his spiel of, you know, take me back. You know, we're married. You you can't get a divorce. Don't divorce me. You said you would never leave and things like that. And I just was like, Tyree, I'm tired, you know, I'm tired of going through these things with you.

11:45 You keep finding a reason to put your hands on me. And it's just to the point now it's just like you won't wind up killing me. Like he was my friend. So I'll talk to him through through his violence, like, you know, like, listen, you could hit me and not even mean to kill me, you know, I could just hit my head on the table or some shit like that, you know. So it was like I was trying to be like as empathetic as possible in the beginning when he first came in, like, look, you know, like we talked about this. He just kept on going on and on and kept me in the room for probably like four or five hours just trying to convince me to stay with him. And then once I finally was like, you know, I finally got mad enough to like, raise my voice.

12:26 He just punched me. He just punched me. I fell on the floor and he just kept punching me in my face. And that's all I felt was him just punched me in my face. And then he was just saying stuff like that. You want to die tonight? Like this is what you wanted. You're going to die like. And then he just started choking me. And when he started choking me, I kind of felt like I was passing out, like it was just real hard for me to breathe. And I kind of was just like fighting, you know, to get his hands off my neck. And I kind of turned around to the side. And when I turned around to the side, his finger went in my mouth. And when his finger went in my mouth, I just bit down. I just just bit every all the blood, the bone, I felt the bone in his hand and everything.

13:11 And so then he kind of like, snapped out of it at that moment because it was like, his eyes was black for a while. And when I bit his hand, he kind of like, snapped out of and was like, oh, shit. And he just looked at me and he was like, like, pick me up off the floor and carried me in the bathroom and started running the water on me. And he just was like, don't call the cops on me. Don't get locked up. So yeah, and after that, I kind of was just like pleading with him to let me go to the hospital. Meanwhile, the kids is in the room. I was screaming for my, I was screaming for help, but nobody, they they was young.

13:52 They wasn't going to come from out of their room. So when I finally got him to let me go to the hospital, I was just like, just let me go to the hospital. I just feel like I'm about to pass out. And he kind of like let me down the steps into the basement and I just never forget going into that basement. I felt like I was going to die right then and there because he had so many tools and so many things like saws and bats and and drills, all kinds of stuff was in the basement. But I got out of the basement and I got into my car. My truck was parked in the back of the house. And when I got in the truck, he was just looking at me and he was like, I'm killing myself. And he just ran off up the street the other way. And I drove my car out the alley, came around a block the long way and ran in the house.

14:42 And I called for all the three of the kids and they as soon as they hurt me, they just ran down the steps. And we got in the car and we start driving and as I'm driving to the emergency room, I'm swerving. So a police officer was parked right there on Lindbergh Blvd. He's seen me. He just was like pulled me over. And then when he pulled, got up to the car, he was just escorted me to the hospital and he was escorted me to the hospital. And I never forget when I got in there, he was he was just looking at me. He was like you better press chargers. Like he saw my face, like my face was bloody. I had a gash right here that cut inside my mouth, like my tooth on the inside went in my mouth. So it was a big gash in the inside of my mouth that was bleeding in the gash on the outside.

15:25 I had a gash down here from my tooth going in my face and my tooth right here was knocked out from the root. Yeah. Is your kids reacting while this is going on? Do they hear it or they sleep through it? They weren't asleep. They were. They were literally hiding behind their room doors at the time. They wasn't asleep at all. Was this something that they were used? To yes. They heard the violence in the home regularly.

16:11 Is it ever occurred to you? Like maybe I'm not going to press charges or did you know? No, I knew I had to press charges. I knew I had to press charges because he wasn't the type of person like he's done this before. And I remember one time it got so far as me calling his probation officer and he talked me out of telling her the truth. He was that good of persuading me not to press charges or, you know, just to go along with it. Like if I was bruised up, I stay home. He he went to jail before for what? The first time he went to jail, he went to jail for robbing the store. And the ironic thing was the store was on the corner of the block where I grew up.

16:55 I never knew it was him that robbed that Lady, but I remember what that Lady face look like when he robbed her. Miss Kim, I remember what her face look like. She had a black eye, black and blue for a while. He pistol whipped her. I didn't know that was him until after we were together. And he would tell me. Yeah, you know, I got locked up, so I robbed. Oh, wow. That was. You never know. And. How much time did he do for that? He did 8 years for that, but he was pretty young when he did that, so he was like 16, about to be 17. So when he did that, they let him go to jail. He served some time and then he got out on probation or parole or whatever, but he violated that because he got into a fight with his then baby mom's husband and he got in a fight with him, which led him back to do the rest of his time.

17:46 So this was someone, a violent person, you've known him to be violent? The thing about it was, is that I I met Tyree when I was 12. He was probably 16. He was a boy in the neighborhood. I was new to the neighborhood. He was a boy in the neighborhood. If I had to go anywhere, I had to walk past his block and he was always outside. So he was always like, hey, you are anybody messing with you? You know, it was those type of, it was that type of relationship. It wasn't that I knew him, knew him, you know what I'm saying? And we met back up almost 12 years later. So it went from a childhood crush to all right, I just ran into my childhood crush.

18:31 And this is at 16 years old when you meet him. He goes to prison at 17 years old, which is a year later. You told me he already had kids. He already had two children, 16 years old, and I didn't know that either. I didn't know none of this until I got or I was already involved with him. OK, When we spoke, you told me one of the things that you were able to convict him was a audio recording. What was the details of the audio recording? The details of the audio recording was just a conversation of him. Just like you hear me saying, you know, Tyree, I don't want to do this anymore. I just want a divorce.

19:14 And he's like, well, I don't want a divorce. You don't have any choice. And then you hear him saying things like, well, we're married. You, you don't have a choice. You just don't have a choice. I don't want a divorce. I don't want a divorce. And you just hear me constantly saying it's, it's, it's enough. I don't want to do this anymore. And then I kind of got smart with it at a point in time because I felt, I really felt like that night I was going to die. And I felt like he had the, the ability to make anything up towards me. Oh, she ran away. Oh, she just, she was cheated. So I started asking questions like, did I ever cheat on you? I mean, because I need, I need you to tell me what is the reason you feel like you could keep putting your hands on me? Have I ever cheated on you?

19:57 That I ever steal from you, that I ever disrespect you? And he's like, no, no, no, you ain't never do none of that. You ain't never do that. Why are you asking me that? I said because I just wanted to be clear that I've never cheated on you. I've never disrespect you and I never stole from you. And in my mind, those are the those are the type of women that deserve, if not deserve. But if a man is going to put their hands on a woman, those are the type of woman. Those things happen. I didn't cheat. I never left my home. My house was clean. He he was living a good life as far as me as a wife. I made sure his clothes was ironed, you know what I'm saying? Before he went to work like I did everything. Did you experience domestic violence as a kid? To a certain extent, like my mom and my dad was never together, but I did, which the witness don't fight and I did know that my dad hit women. Thanks for listening to No Tears for Black Girls. If you enjoyed our show, please take a moment to leave us a five star rating, Hit that subscribe button and give us a follow on social media.

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